Dennis Pusch, PhD

The fly doesn’t choose to die there. It simply doesn’t know there’s another way out. The irony, of course, is that just across the room, an open door may be waiting. But the fly can’t see it — it’s too busy doing more of what’s never worked.

Thich Nhat Hanh, the beloved Buddhist teacher, tells a powerful story about anger. He says that when someone sets your house on fire, the most urgent task is to put out the flames—not to chase after whoever started them. If you run after the suspected arsonist, the whole house burns down.

Many couples come to us after trying other approaches that helped them talk about the issues, but didn’t quite help them change the patterns. That’s where Relational Life Therapy (RLT) offers something new.